Sometimes things just happen, and they’re not always good. Sometimes life hits us with a curve-ball and it’s difficult not to take it personally and feel like life is unfair and that the universe may be conspiring against you. I know, I’ve been there. I used to think like a victim, and sometimes I still catch myself doing so every now and then, but I got myself out of the victim mentality, and I’ll show you how to escape it too.
First, we have to understand a fundamental principle of the universe, that is the Principle of Cause and Effect. You might think of cause and effect like I once did in a science classroom sort of way. You perform ‘x’ and you receive ‘y’ results because you did ‘x’, but rarely do we consider the profound implications of such a simple law on the complexities of life.
“Every Cause has its Effect; every Effect has its Cause; everything happens according to Law; Chance is but a name for Law not recognized; there are many planes of causation, but nothing escapes the Law.”
– The Kybalion
Everything you think, say and do has effects, and those effects cause other things to happen, and just because you cannot trace back the effect to the original cause does not mean that the source cannot be linked to your own doing. That is why taking absolute responsibility for your life is so powerful. When you accept that the circumstances of your life have youself as the origin, then that also implies that the source of power to change also originates with you.
Victims avoid responsibility. They blame everything and everyone but themselves and they refuse to acknowledge that the power to change and overcome challenge starts with their own thinking and perception.
Victimhood is about perception. You can only be a victim if you see yourself as one. Nothing can cause you to be a victim but your own perception of events.
Dr. David R. Hawkins in his book, Power vs. Force explains the relationship between the Principle of Cause and Effect and the victim mentality. For context, the following quote comes from Dr. Hawkins’ discussion on the levels of consciousness and the human endeavor to rise up in the levels of consciousness, which is exactly what we want to do in order to rise above the low consciousness level of victimhood.
“The epistemological effect of awareness of this schema is subtle, but can be far-reaching; implications of these findings have pragmatic applications to sports, medicine, psychiatry, psychology, personal relationships, and the general quest for happiness. Contemplation of the Map of Conciousness can, for instance, transform one’s understanding of causality.”
-Dr. David R. Hawkins, Power vs. Force
The Map of Consciousness is a scale of the levels of consciousness developed by Dr. Hawkins through the study of kinesiology and the testing of subjects to ‘map-out’ the levels of human consciousness. The higher on the scale of consciousness you are, the higher power attractor patterns (energy fields) you operate from, and the more positive energy you attract to your life.
That may be confusing, so I’ll provide an example.
Let’s say a man gets fired from his job. Let’s call him John. John is operating at a low level of consciousness and has been for some time, so when the boss gives him the boot, it doesn’t matter why, he perceives himself as the victim of the event. Naturally, John gets angry because he thinks his boss was unfair for firing him. Anger calibrates on the Map of Consciousness at 150, and thus operates under the influence of low-power attractor patterns. So John is naturally going to attract more negative energy into his life.
John because he needs the job to pay the bills, and he insults the boss that just fired him before slamming the door to the office behind him. He storms out of the building thinking a long string of negative thoughts and treats everyone he interacts with like crap for the rest of the day. The office is probably glad he’s gone at this point.
John decides that life is unfair and because it’s unfair he should just indulge in whatever vice he wants because he’s a victim of life and he deserves it. He has now entered the level of Desire at 125. And right now his desire is to get drunk and blame his problems on everyone and everything but himself, and he should, right? After all, he’s a victim.
So, John drives the bar, ignoring his wife’s calls because he just got fired so screw it, might as well get drunk, he’s a failure anyways. John ignores his loved ones who are all concerned with his behavior, and he ends up spending too much money at the bar after he just got fired, and he gets wasted. He picks a fight because he’s pissed at the world, and gets thrown out of the bar.
John gets in his car, spitting blood and cursing the world in his drunk and sloppy state, and as he is exiting the parking lot, he sees the flashing of the blue and red lights on the police car of the cops who were called over the bar fight. His anger just turned into fear, which calibrates at 100, because John knows that he messed up big-time.
John calls his wife from jail, and tells her what happened, hoping she sees him as the victim as well. She isn’t so stupid and is disgusted by his behavior, and this isn’t the first time he’s done something like this, and tells him that she’s leaving him. That fear turns to grief, which calibrates at 75. John caused all of this to happen, not because he was fired, but because of his own thinking, and he lowers further into the consciousness of guilt and shame, which are the lowest end of the scale of the Map of Consciousness at 20-30.
Every thought and action at a low level of consciousness produces low-power attractor patterns that attract only more negativity as evidenced in the example above. It may be an extreme example, but it gets the point across. This man is stuck in the victim mentality, and thought that because bad things happened to him that his life is miserable, when really he is living in the effects of his own making.
Now, let’s take the same man and provide an example in the opposite direction.
Ted gets fired at his job. Instead of getting upset about it, he asks the boss if he would be willing to write him a letter of recommendation. The boss replies that of course he will, and that the man was a great worker, but that the company has fallen on hard times. Ted is a more optimistic guy than John, and he has an underlying belief that everything will work out.
Ted packs his things and leaves the building, saying farewell to all his coworkers, and is told by all he will be missed and to call if he needs references for his next job. Waving good-bye, Ted leaves the office with pride, which calibrates at 175, because he knows that he was a great worker and he appreciated his time at the office. It wasn’t a bad job, the company just fell on bad times.
He is confident in his ability and that gives Ted the courage, which calibrates at 200, to call is wife and tell her the news. Ted’s confidence in himself inspires confidence in his wife that everything will be fine, and he immediately sets out on the hunt for a new and better job.
As Ted is out job-searching, he realizes that although things may seem uncertain now, that if his old company was doing so poorly, that he would’ve lost that job eventually anyway. Now, although it was unfortunate to get fired, he has the opportunity to search for a better company to work for, and if he is working at a better company, then he will likely get paid better, treated better, and that he will learn more and become better at his profession overall.
Ted accepts the responsibility to find this new job and is willing to do whatever it takes to get it. He starts to perceive the event as an opportunity for growth and applies to several great companies with an excitement to experience something new. Willingness and acceptance calibrate at 310-350.
Ted goes home to his wife after a long day of job hunting and tells her about all the new companies he’s applied to. She can hear the excitement in his voice, and she can feel that her husband isn’t cracking under pressure. Instead of being worried about their future, Ted’s confidence and excitement relax her, and she feels safer knowing her husband doesn’t crumble at the first sign of difficulty.
Ted receives a call from a highly-respected company in the following days. The interviewer informs him that everyone at his previous job had nothing but high praise for his character and his professional work. The interview goes well and Ted gets hired, and his wife is beaming with pride when she hears the news. He has unwittingly raised her consciousness as well.
The job proves difficult but Ted accepts that it’s all a part of getting better, and he is willing to work to raise his professional standards and gets better at everything he does. He is receiving better pay and greatly enjoys his new job. Everyday Ted goes to work excited to learn and grow as a professional, and everyday he comes home and is admired and respected by his loving wife. He sees what could’ve been perceived as a bad event (getting fired) as something he needed to experience to get to the next level of his career.
Good thinking lead to good action which leads to good results, and all because of a positive perspective on events which lead him to operate on high-power attractor patterns which only attracted more good into his life.
The situations of Ted and John are all made up, but I’ve known people in almost the exact same circumstances. I would bet that we can all relate to times in our lives when bad thinking only lead to poor results, and when positive thinking lead to positive results, and that you have seen the same phenomenon play out in the lives of others. It’s how you view circumstance that determines how you react to it, and how you react to it greatly determines the outcome of events.
“As perception itself evolves with one’s level of consciousness, it becomes apparent that what the world calls the domain of causes is in fact the domain of effects. By taking responsibility for the consequences of his own perceptions, the observer can transcend the role of victim to an understanding that “nothing out there has power over you.” It isn’t life’s events, but how one reacts to them and the attitude that one has about them, that determines whether such events have a positive or negative effect on one’s life, whether they’re experienced as opportunity or stress.”
– Dr. David R. Hawkins, Power vs. Force
The mentality that you foster and keep is what determines the effects of circumstance on your life.
The perspective you take on circumstance either aligns you with low-power attractor patterns or high-power attractor patterns and that alignment is what attracts more good or bad into your life.
When you are aware of this phenomenon and USE it instead of being a victim, you enter a whole new playing field in the game of life.
“The Hermetists understand the art and methods of rising Above the ordinary plane of Cause and Effect, to a certain degree, and by mentally rising to a higher plane they become Causers instead of Effects…… Movers instead of pawns. They help to PLAY THE GAME OF LIFE, instead of being played and moved about by other wills and environment. They USE the Principle instead of being its tools.”
-The Kybalion
Be a player, not a pawn. Control your perception and you can control the effects of circumstance.
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