I was talking with some guys I work with about dating just the other day and I found that all of them were completely dissatisfied with the world of dating, and I received nearly identical reasoning from each one about why they bare a grudge with the dating world.

I didn’t try to push any of them to the same conclusion or lead them along, it was just the exact same complaint from each individual. It was the same gripe I had when I was in the dating scene.

What it came down to was morals. Men want a woman with good morals. The general consensus I got from my peers was that morality is a forgotten relic to modern day women. I’m not claiming that is the case with every woman, but there are reasons for trends.

Most of the guys I talked to want to be married and have a family, the problem is, women aren’t wives anymore. The risk outweighs the benefits, and modern men aren’t willing to take such risks when the likelihood of success is so small.

None of the guys I talked to said that they trust women. I believe this lack of trust in modern women stems from the fact that modern women don’t have to act with morality to get what they want, and it’s not just their fault alone.

It’s society’s fault and a lot of the blame falls on the shoulders of the ones that complain about it: men. Modern day women can act however they please because there is always another desperate guy patiently waiting around the corner who will put up with anything and do just about anything just to be with a woman.

The world has become sexualized to the point that getting laid has become such an obsession that people will give up their self-respect and dignity to get it. Why would a woman act with morality when they are constantly being rewarded for a lack thereof?

The men of the world also lack morals. The same men who complain that there are no moral women out there are the very same men that will give immoral women all their attention and energy just for sex. If they desire a moral woman, then why do they reward the immoral ones with their time and attention and resources, and why betray your own morality for that woman’s attention?

Most men have given up hope and play along with this immoral game because they want to get laid too and if that’s what they have to do to get it then they decide to pay the price, knowingly or unknowingly supporting the very system they despise.

Every girl on Instagram has boatloads of men ready to simp for them at a moment’s notice. They can post one picture with their ass out and get thousands of likes and other women who don’t do the same hardly get noticed. The men are encouraging this behavior with their attention.

Sadly, most of those guys are supporting the very behavior from women that they claim makes women unfit for marriage in more ways than one. They will like a woman’s revealing and sexual pictures hoping she might notice them, reinforcing the idea that women don’t need to act ladylike to get attention from men, and women gobble up the attention and continue the cycle for their next dopamine hit.

The vast majority of women on social media have provocative bikini pictures on their profiles and even just straight up pictures of their nearly naked bodies, all in the name of feminism and the whole why shouldn’t I, I can do whatever I want it’s my body mentality.

Ironically, it’s usually the same women who also complain that they can’t find a good man and wonder why they have a million guys who want to get with them but not a single man who wants to marry them.

If only they realized that no good man wants to marry a woman who is showing her body to the world like that for all eyes to see. Good men are good men because they have strong morals, and they aren’t going to accept a lack of them from a romantic partner.

Maybe you’ve noticed the women who don’t behave like that on social media, and maybe you’ve also noticed that those are usually the women who are married or are in serious relationships, and it’s because men recognize women of virtue and those are the kind of women who get wifed up.

Men are supporting immoral behavior in women. Why are you liking the pictures of women on Instagram who are displaying their bodies for attention or following those women and giving them the attention that they crave?

Don’t support immorality if you’re going to complain that you can’t find a virtuous woman. Don’t give them your attention, time or resources because we are all fundamentally the same as human beings. We just want each other, but we constantly teach one another what it is we want and right now we are making a recipe for disaster.

Nearly all of the popular musical artists nowadays are making music videos that are borderline pornography and people are wondering why young men and women grow up and act in the same way and live promiscuously.

The youth are seeing what gets attention on the mainstream and copy that behavior thinking that’s what you must do to get attention and to get the opposite sex to be attracted to you, which it does, but not in a healthy way, and it doesn’t lead to any healthy, long-lasting relationship.

Men give up their dignity and act however they need to act to get laid and women reveal their bodies and act like promiscuous to get attention from men because they think that’s what guys want, and to a degree it is, but not from a woman they would want to marry.

Somehow being a player or a being slut has become the new ‘cool’ and it has destroyed the possibilities of countless future marriages and families. It has ruined countless relationships and if it was so cool, then why aren’t the people doing it happy? Why don’t they have fulfilling relationships and people in their lives they can trust?

There is so much more that could be said about this topic, but the main issue I wanted to touch on was the lack of morality that has crippled modern dating. One solution to this is knowing what it is you want and giving support accordingly.

If you’re a man who wants a wife and a family, stop supporting the immoral behavior of women you wouldn’t want from your wife.

Don’t like those photos or follow those women. Don’t talk to women who behave immorally, don’t listen to music or watch music videos that are sexualized and encourage women to behave in immoral ways. Stop watching pornography and constantly sexualizing your mind. Maybe it’s time to filter your life so you stop supporting immorality.

If you’re a woman who wants a husband and a family, don’t flaunt your body on social media, act like a lady and the good men will come. Stop talking to men you know who don’t have good intentions because you’re teaching men that immoral behavior is what you want.

We as a society are influencing the behavior of men and women all around the world and if you don’t like what’s happening then behave accordingly and use your support and attention in a constructive way that will bring about the outcome that you want to see.

You don’t need to play the blame game and point fingers and act the victim because that doesn’t change anything. If you want a partner with good morals, be virtuous first.

If you don’t like what you see, stop looking and supporting it with your attention. Be what you want to see. It’s important to withdraw your support from immorality, and equally important to discourage and oppose immorality.

I don’t think that you should attack anyone who acts immorally or shame people in an aggressive way, but there must be some fighting back to a degree. Sometimes there is an appropriate time to say something when you see something, but don’t forget the power of your attention because taking that away can be even more powerful than words.

An excellent example I’ve seen of this type of respectful opposition is from Candice Owens. She is strongly opposed to immorality, but she is never rude or demeaning, she says what should be said and puts up a fight in a civil manner. Here is a link to an interview she did on the Roommates podcast.

We create the culture of relationships. We need to start acting like we do.

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