If you are on the path of self-improvement, understand that you will have haters. Now, to understand haters and how to deal with them, it is important to understand why people become haters. There are many reasons for why people become haters. However, I believe the most basic reason is fear. Haters fear your growth. They don’t want you to succeed or improve yourself.

HATERS FEAR COMPETITION

Whether we like it or not, everyone is competing. Whether the competition is for basic survival, sexual partners, or social status; some people will become so fearful of the competition you present that they will try to drain your energy, project negative energy into your life, or attempt to sabotage your success. If you are on the right path, then you should only really be competing against yourself, but by doing so you will start to raise your own status and arouse the fear of others who are afraid of competition.

The ability to change, especially for the better, is an indicator of adaptability. The ability to adapt increases an organism’s chances of survival (success). Haters live in a scarcity mentality and because of this haters feel challenged by those who are actively improving themselves.  Haters believe their chances of success decrease when they see others increasing their own chances of success because haters do not believe in the abundance of the universe. Even worse, they don’t believe in their own ability to be better and improve.

HATERS ARE ENERGY VAMPIRES

Don’t allow haters to drain your energy! Haters are usually energy vampires, and the most common tactic energy vampires use to drain you of your energy is by getting you to react. Haters do this by spreading lies and gossip or by insulting you, and even by feigning friendship in order to attempt to redirect where your energy flows (hopefully towards them). Remember: Where your attention goes, energy flows. If a hater can create a reaction in you, then they can temporarily redirect your energy flow away from your goals and towards them. This is how haters drain your energy in attempt to destroy or neutralize the threat they believe you present.

HOW TO COMBAT HATERS

The best way to combat haters is to not engage them at all. Don’t spend any time thinking about your haters and don’t give your energy to caring about what they say or think. You have a purpose. You have goals. Focus on those and don’t fall for their energy traps. If anything, be grateful to your haters. Having haters is a great indicator of being on the right track, use their energy to fuel your motivation instead of reacting to the negative energy they emit.

Never react, respond. If you are to encounter a hater without being able to avoid them, or if you are informed about what haters are saying about you, then respond with humor by either amplifying or agreeing. Being able to make fun of yourself and defuse the situation will show others that you possess confidence and self-control.

Blowing off the hate shows that you don’t take your haters seriously and that maybe others shouldn’t either. Successfully displaying this inner fortitude will bring others into your frame (your perception of reality) because you proved your frame the stronger by not accepting the haters frame or by not taking it seriously.

The final strategy for combating haters is by embracing the Virtue of Silence (See: ON THE VIRTUE OF SILENCE ). Keep your plans and other information to yourself. Keep your wins a secret. Keep your next move a secret. If you do choose to disclose personal information, never say more than necessary and be humble. Knowledge is power, so keep what information you disclose to a minimum.

If you find yourself being a hater, ask yourself, why? Search yourself and give a honest answer, even if it hurts. There is a lesson to learn about yourself if you are willing to look. Continue on with your pursuit of self-improvement and use these tools to combat the energy vampires when they try to bring you down.

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